How Love Evolves in Three Stages

"When you are courting a nice girl, an hour seems like a second.  When you sit on a red-hot coal, a second seems like an hour.  That is relativity. ~Albert Einstein

Discovering real love follows three stages of development.       

•  the euphoria,     
• after the euphoria and       
•  into love and truth

The Euphoria

Love and truth are incompatible in early courtship because excited new lovers are under the explosive influence of love potions generated in the brain and released throughout their bodies.  Lovers experience intense feelings of rapturous euphoria and want to keep on feeling it. 

They do not want to be separate for a moment.  The juiced up sensation of their feel good experience is addictive.  They feel sick when a part and can only think of how soon they can be together again.

After the Euphoria

When new lovers emerge from the euphoria of their erotic romance, they discover their new world is small.  Friends and family do not feel important.   Intense and unsustainable feelings fade as reality invades and the magic disappears. 

Lovers face new questions.   What have they done?  Do they like each other?  Do they discover their lover is someone very different than they thought?  Handsome and exciting turned into ordinary.   Sexy turned into average.  Is it the end or real opportunity for lasting love and relationship to emerge?

Into Love and Truth

Lovers who have fallen in love without the intentional investment of getting to know each other discover they have new decisions to make after the euphoria.  Love and truth have opportunity to evolve in relationship when lovers are mature enough to step back to think, get to know themselves and each other. 

New decisions for love and relationship surface from openly shared information.  Love and truth come about when lovers share their real physical and emotional hopes, dreams, wants and needs. 

Expressed willingness to give to each other to meet real physical and emotional hopes, dreams, wants and needs is an exceptional deal.  Living out this negotiated agreement born of mutual interests demonstrates love and truth at their best. 

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